I want to start out by saying I have had a blessed life. Looking back now I enjoyed every second of it. I have lost jobs due to unforeseen circumstances. Which forced me to take big risks, and I lost on all of them. As you can tell I’ve had straight bad luck. Most people wouldn’t see the circumstances I have had as a privilege. I do. Which Is why I want to share with you my 3 reasons to confront your pain and not avoid it.
Because without these moments I wouldn’t be as strong and as well prepared for life as I am now. Now I see my pain as an ally rather than an enemy. I’ve become more at peace with my self and I started to evolve. My new perspective on pain taught me 3 things on how your pain can give you the most gain.
You Learn About Your Weaknesses
I have found that knowing your weaknesses and working on them will allow you to ascend to higher levels. Fixing your weaknesses will allow you to deal with adversity better. When it does inevitably show up and trust me, it will. When it does arrive know this, because you’ve worked through your weaknesses you’ll have a new set of skills.
Provides Peace of Mind
This seems like the opposite of what you might be thinking when you are staring your pain in the face. During these rock bottom moments, you start to see that your situation could be a lot worse. Problems seem much bigger than they really are. Confronting your pain allows you to have this clarity. Which will provide you peace of mind moving forward. Each adverse situation is not the end of the world. Don’t forget that. Being able to keep your bearing in some of the most adverse situations. That will allow you to effectively and efficiently find the solution to future problems.
This peace of mind is key to living the life you want and enjoying every moment. If you are looking for a good book, check out Winning the War in Your Mind. It’s a great book and it hits this point home.
Allows you to evolve
Pain + Reflection = Better you.
I can say from personal experience by losing a few jobs due to unforeseen circumstances, being ignored, being called everything under the sun by many people, the pain hurts. But is worth it. Why? Because I am in a way better situation than I was before the pain started. Because I had to learn how to grow from it. I had to evolve into something that wouldn’t get me stuck in the same situation if tragedy struck again.
Developing a reflexive reaction to the pain by going toward it rather than running away from it, will provide you with the ability to evolve into a more efficient you. Because the person who gives more when it hurts gets more when it is over.
Everyone has bad or unfortunate situations happen to them. That’s Life, shit happens. But don’t get over it, learn from it. The pain that you felt, is nature’s way of telling you it’s time to learn something new and evolve. Pain at the end of the day is a good thing and is nothing you should run away from. Remember when the tough times come, and it will, you determine what your future will be coming out of it. The ones who give more when it hurts to get more when it’s over.
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